Quote from: RE on Mar 10, 2024, 10:13 AMThis palatial living costs the taxpayer $200K/yr.  To me, that seems an awfully high price for what we are getting.  Maybe I expect too much,like to feel safe, eat quality food and get help from a competent staff.  Maybe I expect too much?  What do you think?
RE

Moms care costs $7500/month, I think the bill for the year I just sent to the accountant for tax considerations was like $88k for the year. She is in there for later stages dementia, still physically able to walk around, which results in an occasional fall (twice of note), one of which looked really bad with the bruising being wildly colorful and resulted in a hospital visit. She went off the rails once with scissors and threatened to kill herself with them, that resulted in a psyche ward visit. The food is good, I've eaten there, every time I've walked in unannounced (which is every time) there have been things going on, activities you might expect of those late in life and living in a home. Safety is high, you can't get in without being seen, they can't get out either. Ever caregiver I've met is native English speaker and quite talkative and nice. Staff is responsive to emails, I get calls as soon as possible when some of these events happen. The turn over in patients appears substantial, either because of $$ (no insurance accepted) or they die. Based on the condition of some, I figure most are closer to the end then they'd like to think and don't usually last out a year.

Dementia runs in the family (from grandfather side, got him, and 2 of his 4 kids, 3rd didn't last long enough to see if he had it), so my question right now is how to find a reasonable exit should it become apparent I'm headed that way. Quality of life has always been more important than quantity in IMHO.

"Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "Wow! What a Ride!"
― Hunter S. Thompson, The Proud Highway: Saga of a Desperate Southern Gentleman, 1955-1967