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[K-Dog]

To be honest I remain single and I don't really have a great desire to partner up. I feel, and this is only a personal feeling, but most women are more trouble than they are worth.

Sounds completely true to me. Which makes the entire exercise of going beyond just collecting a good time girl that much more important. I like the word partner.

Life is what you make it out to be and the ability to lead a fulfilling life largely depends on your mindset and really understanding yourself and your personal desires/ambitions. If you can understand yourself and pursue the things you find important whilst maintaining some sort of social network you can prosper. There is no need for partners although if that is what you desire then go for it. Just be honest on what you want. Don't marry to impress people, conform to social pressure or do it for status. All those reasons are external validations, the desire needs to come from within.

Who would ever confuse marriage with trying to impress people, conform or collect status? Sounds almost like a weak mind falling for whatever they've been spoon fed online or by their parents of friend or whatever.

"Yes, I'd like to wreck my life for as long as I stay married in order to impress mom/dad/Facebook crowd because impressing people is the most important! Oh yeah, and lets have some kids to make it better and turn them into little maladjusted shits because I just want them for the Christmas photos each year I send out to family!".

Yeech, the whole idea people are so easily manipulated by trying to impress others makes me cringe.

This post was made by TDOS but for some strange reason no doubt related to database issues his comment does not show up.  By quoting it I made it show.

[TDoS]

To be honest I remain single and I don't really have a great desire to partner up. I feel, and this is only a personal feeling, but most women are more trouble than they are worth.

Sounds completely true to me. Which makes the entire exercise of going beyond just collecting a good time girl that much more important. I like the word partner.

Life is what you make it out to be and the ability to lead a fulfilling life largely depends on your mindset and really understanding yourself and your personal desires/ambitions. If you can understand yourself and pursue the things you find important whilst maintaining some sort of social network you can prosper. There is no need for partners although if that is what you desire then go for it. Just be honest on what you want. Don't marry to impress people, conform to social pressure or do it for status. All those reasons are external validations, the desire needs to come from within.

Who would ever confuse marriage with trying to impress people, conform or collect status? Sounds almost like a weak mind falling for whatever they've been spoon fed online or by their parents of friend or whatever.

"Yes, I'd like to wreck my life for as long as I stay married in order to impress mom/dad/Facebook crowd because impressing people is the most important! Oh yeah, and lets have some kids to make it better and turn them into little maladjusted shits because I just want them for the Christmas photos each year I send out to family!".

Yeech, the whole idea people are so easily manipulated by trying to impress others makes me cringe.

This post was made by TDOS but for some strange reason no doubt related to database issues his comment does not show up.  By quoting it I made it show.

I certainly wrote it. Why would the MIB decide they didn't like this one?

[RE]

I certainly wrote it. Why would the MIB decide they didn't like this one?

Probably not the MIB, more like a glitch in the SQL.  The tables appear to be somewhat messed up.

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[RE]

Who would ever confuse marriage with trying to impress people, conform or collect status? Sounds almost like a weak mind falling for whatever they've been spoon fed online or by their parents of friend or whatever.

Rich guys do it all the time.  They're called "Trophy Wives" for a reason.  They go with the Super Yacht and Private Jet as symbols of your success and power.

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[K-Dog]

I certainly wrote it. Why would the MIB decide they didn't like this one?

Probably not the MIB, more like a glitch in the SQL.  The tables appear to be somewhat messed up.

RE

Exactly right.

[monsta666]

Who would ever confuse marriage with trying to impress people, conform or collect status? Sounds almost like a weak mind falling for whatever they've been spoon fed online or by their parents of friend or whatever.

There are many cultures where family will exert significant pressure on their kids to get married. In order not to disappoint their parents and family some people will yield to such social pressure and marry out of some sense of obligation. Marrying under those circumstances has a significant chance of becoming an unhappy marriage. What's worse, it is often these same cultures that divorce is frowned upon meaning that there are lots of people stuck in unhappy marriages. On paper these marriages may seem "successful" because they didn't divorce but dig beneath the surface and often reality will paint a different picture.

These type of pressures existed way before the advent of social media so it wouldn't be fair to blame it on that although I would agree social media does contribute to this social pressure. Also worth bearing in mind that until recently there was social stigma about remaining single which was bad enough that it could effect your job prospects.

It still exists today because think, how would people react to a US president who was a single? Do you think their marriage status (or lack thereof) impact their presidential campaign? People look more favorably to married men or woman and for the highest ranking jobs it can still make a difference. At the end of the day marriage and by extension kids is a marker of success in society. People want to appear successful in the eyes of others so the desire to marry is partly motivated to gaining social status.

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It still exists today because think, how would people react to a US president who was a single? Do you think their marriage status (or lack thereof) impact their presidential campaign? People look more favorably to married men or woman and for the highest ranking jobs it can still make a difference. At the end of the day marriage and by extension kids is a marker of success in society. People want to appear successful in the eyes of others so the desire to marry is partly motivated to gaining social status.

There also can be pressure from the job to have the right "type" of wife to climb the corporate laddder.  This came into play in my parent's divorce, where my mom did not fit in with the other wives of bankers and State dept and military personnel and never learned to speak Portuguese very well.  She was an embarassment for my father at the parties and the country club.  We left Brazil a year before him while they worked out the divorce.  Meanwhile, he married a Brazilian woan right after the divorce finalized.  You get the picture.

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[TDoS]

I certainly wrote it. Why would the MIB decide they didn't like this one?

Probably not the MIB, more like a glitch in the SQL.  The tables appear to be somewhat messed up.

RE

Exactly right.

Has anyone noticed that headers and text and topics in most of the forums are gone?

[TDoS]

Who would ever confuse marriage with trying to impress people, conform or collect status? Sounds almost like a weak mind falling for whatever they've been spoon fed online or by their parents of friend or whatever.

There are many cultures where family will exert significant pressure on their kids to get married.

I hadn't thought of that one, but folks who were raised in the remnants of the old Empire certainly might. Makes perfect sense, from a perspective and history that remembers "back in the day".

I lack that perspective. Marriage as arranged, marriage as alliances in families, the way of the Monarchy and what not.

It still exists today because think, how would people react to a US president who was a single?

Not much. Convicted criminals are now good to go, hard to think that being single is worse when it comes to ability to be elected in America.

At the end of the day marriage and by extension kids is a marker of success in society. People want to appear successful in the eyes of others so the desire to marry is partly motivated to gaining social status.

Interesting. And as usual alien to me. I didn't give fuck all about what society thinks, because it sure never thought dick about dirt poor hill jacks in Appalachia regardless of who they marry, or why, or what lies they tell the world on social media.

I wonder what percentage of modern America is infected by this? Watching the social media age unfold, it has been just stunning from my perspective of "never exsited before, don't care, doesn't matter" but the wife certainly seems to have gotten caught up in it along the way.

"Oh, you shouldn't say something like that!" she says.

A slight hesitation to make sure I didn't say something incrrect or stupid..and then "why not"? I ask.

"Because there are these popular people online who make lots of money making sure we all know our pronouns and are educating everyone as to these new ways of doing things! And they have millions of followers and are rich and popular!"

Another hesitation...."...o...k....and what fuckard decided that the accuracy of a thing being said is accurate or even true based on internet clicks or making money off the cute ads they make claiming it on the internet?"

And then she says.."oh you're just old and don't understand".

Probably an accurate statement. I am old. I'll stick with "quality under alles" with the time I have left.